With all the concerns about starting a family in today's day and age, the concept of people not having kids is becoming more common.
For example, a 2018 report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) showed that the birth rate had hit a 30-year low in the United States. So what's behind this trend? Here are 14 reasons people are choosing not to have kids now or in the future.
1. They Haven't Found The Right Partner
Not everyone finds their prince charming and lives happily ever after. Many men and women aren't having families because they haven't found the “right” partner.
2. Some People Just Don't Want Kids
Do people need a reason to not want children? Some people just aren't called to it.
3. Financial Concerns
Raising a child can be expensive, and many feel they are not financially stable enough to provide for a family. With the rising cost of living and stagnant wages, many people can't afford to have children.
Raising a child is expensive, from paying for daycare to buying clothes and food. Plus, the thought of adding the cost of tuition on top of everything else can be overwhelming.
4. Career Focus
Many people prioritize their careers over starting a family, fearing that having children will negatively impact their professional goals. For some people, career goals take precedence over starting a family.
They may be focused on climbing the corporate ladder or pursuing their passions and feel that having kids would hinder their progress.
5. Fear of Pregnancy and Childbirth
Let's face it — pregnancy and childbirth can be scary. From morning sickness to labor pains, it's not an easy process.
Some people may be intimidated by the physical toll that having a child can take on their body or fear potential complications. Some note that they couldn't dream of having a child because they could not bear the pain of childbirth. “I can't imagine a baby as big as a basketball coming out of me,” they say.
6. Lack of Interest
Some people do not have the desire to have children and feel fulfilled without them.
A commenter notes that having kids is not for everyone, and some people don't want children. They may prefer to focus on other aspects of their lives, such as careers, hobbies, or relationships.
7. Desire for Freedom and Independence
Some people value their independence and the ability to travel and pursue personal interests without the responsibility of raising a child. Having children can be a significant commitment; some people don't want to be tied down.
They may enjoy the freedom to travel or pursue their hobbies without the added responsibility of raising a child.
8. Lack of Support
Raising a child is a huge responsibility, and many people feel they don't have the support system to make it work. From a lack of family nearby to help to a partner who isn't interested in parenting, one may feel they don't have the resources to be a good parent because parenting requires a lot.
9. Environmental Concerns
In today's world, it's hard not to worry about the future. With climate change and other environmental issues looming, many people are concerned about bringing a child into a world that may not support them in the future.
Some people are choosing not to have children to reduce their carbon footprint and positively impact the environment. To the question of the reason they won't want to have a child now, a respondent shared an experience where they'd witnessed children sink into the ground during an earthquake is enough and how it was enough reason not to dream of having one.
10. Personal Health Concerns
For some people, health issues make it difficult or impossible to have children. Mostly, these sets of people want to have children. Still, this hindrance usually causes them to accept their fate of possibly not having.
From fertility issues to chronic illnesses that make pregnancy dangerous, these concerns can be a significant factor in deciding not to have kids.
11. Fear of Parenting
Parenting is hard work. It's a 24/7 job that requires a lot of patience, dedication, and sacrifice. Some people aren't cut out for it, and they know it. Parenthood can be daunting, and some people fear they won't be able to handle the challenges of raising a child.
12. Relationship Issues
Having a child is a huge commitment and can strain even the most solid relationships. Some people choose not to have children because they don't want to risk damaging their relationship with their partner.
Some others are unsure about the stability of their current relationship and are hesitant to have children.
13. Personal Trauma
Having children can trigger memories of past trauma or abuse for some people. This can make it difficult to imagine bringing a child into the world and can lead to a decision not to have children.
Individuals who have experienced trauma in their childhood may fear that they will perpetuate the cycle of abuse or neglect if they become parents.
14. Lifestyle Choices
Some people prefer a lifestyle that doesn't involve children. They may enjoy traveling, pursuing hobbies, focusing on their career, or struggle with bad habits, and having children doesn't fit into that lifestyle. Even though they may want children, their lifestyles do not make room for any.
There are many valid reasons people are choosing not to have children. Whether it's because of financial concerns, career focus, or personal values and beliefs, the decision to have children is deeply personal and should be respected.
We must recognize that having children is not the only path to a fulfilling and meaningful life and support those who choose alternative paths.
Boloere Divine Seibidor, fondly called B.S., is a Nigerian-based writer and poet. Her favorite topics include music, especially Hip-Hop, film, lifestyle, and fashion. She's been published by Feral Journal, Fantasy Magazine, The Temz Review, and most notably, Wealth of Geeks. She enjoys romantic dinners, movie nights, and touring new sights. When she's not writing, she's delving back in time to the underground world of Hip-Hop, watching TikTok, or visiting the cinema.