7 Subtle Things The Most Emotionally Intelligent Leaders Do Differently

You’ve heard all about the importance of emotional intelligence. Perhaps you even consider yourself quite savvy when it comes to the art of demonstrating a high EQ. But do you embody the elusive qualities that make emotionally intelligent leaders so good with people? If you have to think about it, probably not. 

“Emotionally intelligent leadership is recognizing and understanding that most of the things you say and do will be forgotten, but how you make someone feel will never be forgotten.” 

1. They genuinely care You can’t fake caring. And leaders with emotional intelligence know that — and truly care. “If the success of their team determines a leader’s success, the key to being successful is to care about those people genuinely. Sometimes, it’s really just as simple as demonstrating that,” says de Kock. 

2. They create safe space: According to her, emotionally intelligent leaders create safe spaces where people feel comfortable being themselves. How? By being in touch with their own emotions and sharing them. 

3. They take care of themselves: You know what they say about putting your oxygen mask on first. To be in tune with others and support them to become their best selves, you have to bring your best self to work first. 

4. They show that they care: “Emotionally intelligent leaders don’t just invest in people professionally. They also go out of their way to show they truly care about their teams. The small gestures often demonstrate this more than the large gestures because it shows that a leader has really taken the time to understand and listen.