Have You Been ‘Gaslighted’ at Work? Here Are 4 Ways To Deal

These are examples of gaslighting. While the term has become so overused — and often misused — that its meaning has become obscured, gaslighting is no less severe. It can have a negative impact on your professional life as much as your personal one.

Gaslighting is a type of manipulation in which the perpetrator (the gaslighter) makes you doubt your sense of truth and reality by saying blatantly false things. It’s a form of bullying that can have serious repercussions.

It can happen so gradually that the victim may not realize what’s happening until they thoroughly question their sanity and events or facts they know to be accurate, to the point at which they feel like they have no control over the situation.

Document Everything.

It’s crucial to put everything that happens down in writing. If things seem amiss, start jotting down notes after your interactions with your colleague.

Additionally, try to have conversations over email — this creates a record of what has taken place, and they won’t be able to manipulate you or claim you’re misremembering. If your interactions are vague, get clarification, such as by writing, “To confirm, we discussed X and Y.”

Address The Situation With The Gaslighter

It is possible that they don’t even realize what they’re doing, and you broaching the subject could make them more aware of what they’re doing.

Enlist the support of colleagues. The gaslighter could very well be exhibiting the same behavior with others, or coworkers might have witnessed how they have been acting toward you.

Get Additional Support

Report The Behavior.

This step will come much earlier in some cases, such as discrimination or harassment. But either way, if you haven’t been able to make strides with your perpetrator and their actions are affecting you and your work, you must escalate the problem and report it.

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