“I know it happens, but this was the most excited I've ever been about a job and a company in my 17-year career. I'm trying not to feel sorry for myself, but this hurts.”
Many of us have found ourselves in similar disappointing scenarios. How do you cope?
While the OP said the recruiter couldn’t give her a reason, this situation is where it’s perfectly okay — encouraged, even — to ask for feedback. Yes, the hiring manager may not be willing to provide it for whatever reason, but it’s a starting point.
“What was so exciting about this job? When you break down the elements that made this the perfect position, identify other jobs/companies that offer the same or similar. Is there anything you can incorporate into your current role while you are in the job search process?”
Susan Price encouraged the OP to “consider asking the individuals you talked to and connected with for referrals to similar jobs or people in their network since you obviously made it through several layers.”
While it’s likely that you’re doing just fine, consider how you can boost your interview skills even more. Practice with friends, and welcome feedback.